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Forgive and forget is advice that has been passed down through generations of peacekeepers, television sitcoms and films, and sage mothers from my adolescence and well into adulthood. But is this adage as easy as it sounds? Forgive? Maybe. Forget? Never.

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We Can’t Let Go of Grudges

More than three decades later, I have yet to forgive or forget the boy who taunted and terrorized me in elementary school, calling me names and insulting me during recess period.

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Or the pair of old men who casually grunted racist slurs then laughed at my friends and me, a group of high school girls, innocently enjoying a night out on the town. There was also that time a good friend promised he’d come to an important event but failed to show up.

He’s reached out since to apologise, but I still can’t bring myself to rekindle our friendship.

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To you and me both, these are petty, trivial transgressions in the grand scheme of things.

Yet, as these memories resurface, the hurt and anger they elicit still feels as fresh and raw as when they first occurred.

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If these are the insignificant, trivial villains from my past, imagine how I must feel about those who have wronged me in deep, more consequential ways.

And Grudges Are Like Inexcusable Crimes

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Suffice to say I am hardly the only person who happily clings to resentment. As it turns out, I, too, have been on the receiving end of a grudge.

I’ve wronged others, sometimes unwittingly, and my offenses have yet to be forgiven nor forgotten.

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A former friendly acquaintance from a decade ago reached out to me not too long ago, accusing me of betraying our friendship by dating someone she had been interested in.

It didn’t matter that I remembered both the story and our supposed friendship differently.

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To her, I had committed an inexcusable crime, one that had birthed a grudge so potent, that after a decade of silence, it imploded into a furious torrent of angry Facebook messages, spewing with absolute conviction that I was the worst person on the planet. Clearly, the past was far from forgotten.

Grievances Breed Hostility and Anger, as Well Physical Illness

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Science tells us that holding onto hate, or any kind of negativity, for that matter, hurts our mental and physical health and our happiness.

Yale professor Marc Brackett explains in a Medium post, negative emotions, such as “anxiety, anger, sadness, and stress are closely associated with unhealthy behaviors, such as poor dietsmoking, excessive drinking, physical inactivity, and social isolation,” factors which can lead to heart disease, cancer, Type 2 diabetes, addiction, and dementia.

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Hostility and anger, in particular, are often linked to heart disease. He notes that “men reporting the highest levels of anger were two-and-a-half times more likely to suffer cardiac events [e.g., heart attacks] than other men.”

There are no upsides to holding onto negativity, but despite this clear logic, we often refuse to let our grudges go. Is it that we’re taught to be vindictive or is it inherently in our DNA?

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Origins of the 100,000-Year-Old Grudge 

Dr. Penny Spikins, an archeologist at the University of York seems to think that it’s the latter.

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In fact, she believes the ability of early humans to hold a grudge is what catalyzed populations to spread and grow, ultimately resulting in the modern world as we know it.

The earliest humans migrated very slowly and were largely limited by environmental barriers.

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But 100,000 years ago, she says, something shifted within social relationships.

As humans began to rely more on each other for survival, they also became more inclined to identify and punish those who betrayed them. And thus, a ‘dark’ side of human nature was born.

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Eventually, these “moral disputes motivated by broken trust and a sense of betrayal became more frequent and motivated early humans to put distance between them and their rivals.”

If a group of people is seeking to take revenge against you, it could be “strong motivation to get away, and to take almost any risk to do so,” says Spikins.

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Individuals would leave their communities in search of new allies in distant places. Lacking many choices, these early humans who had once lived comfortably in the grasslands and open woodland in Africa and Asia were suddenly forced to migrate to more “distant, risky and inhospitable areas” into Northern Europe or across the sea to Australia and the Pacific islands to stay out of harm’s way.

Spikins’s research illustrates how resentment played a pivotal role in growing and developing the world’s population, cultivating an evolutionary trait vital to our survival. However, it doesn’t answer one, basic yet important question.

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Why do grudges make us feel so good? Or rather, why is it that so many of us can empathize with Madeline Martha Mackenzie from Big Little Lies, who embraces this complicated emotion with glee? “I love my grudges. I tend to them like little pets.”

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The Side Effects of Moringa You Must Know Before it’s too Late » Loversify

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Moringa Seed, Powder and Root side Effects? You are about to know.

Info: This is why those using Moringa Oleifera have to slow down before it will be too late to do so.

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It is no more news that Moringa is taking the lead (or something close) of herbs used to cure many diseases and one which helps stay healthy, in recent times. Called the tree of life, Moringa Oleifera is a plant that would whet your mental appetite regarding its health benefits.

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It has helped many Obese in losing weight. Many diabetes and arthritis patients among many others have benefitted from the potency of this miracle plant. Isn’t it worth a rapturous applause? But, while we perpetually celebrate the untold healing it has wrought in the lives of many, shouldn’t we look into its side effects? Or does it have no side effects at all? Read on to know!

It’s not even a new thing to see both the young and the old venturing into the business of selling both its seed and leaves to earn living. To say the least, some people make fortunes out of this miracle tree!

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But, it’s more than that. The madness that people have developed concerning this plant is something we all need to take a closer look at. It’s worth the prying eyes of anyone who is known to be their brother’s keeper and of course, everyone that really needs to live longer.

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When it comes to mental marketing, I have not seen a country as good as Nigeria. Let there be a news on the major television stations today that, “Eating one’s faeces and drinking one’s urine following, is a way to immortalize oneself;” don’t be surprised when you see your great grandmother being the first to use it.

You heard that Moringa’s seed, leaves and root are all you need to keep you healthy, and the next you do is to be taking seven of its seeds at a time without consulting medical practitioners – even common sense – to help in the usage?

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It is questionable how Nigerians take news and attend to things that are in vogue. Oh! I wouldn’t fail to mention the last one that happened. It was during the Ebola outbreak. On just hearing that taking salt water was a preventive measure to take, some bathe, brushed, wiped their buttocks, and sniffed with salt water. Many did so much unimaginable things with the use of salt and some were left dead when the effect of “the salt we take every day” manifested on their bodies.

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Who would have thought that common salt that is part of almost everything we take on daily basis could be the reason behind some people’s death? I sigh.

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Before we continue, allow me to tell you little about myself…

I am a Nigerian. And a proud one at that. Hey! I didn’t mean I am proud; I mean I am proud to be a Nigerian. Thanks for your understanding. Smiles.

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I am in my early thirties and I remember I have been in the hospital twice in my life: the first time (1997), I ate poisoned food and the second (2007), I had a cut on my left eyebrow (can you see it from there?) which needed to be sutured. To be factual, my only sickness is headache. And whenever I have that, I only need to sleep and that’s the end. I don’t take any drugs!

So, talking about sound health, I am one who needs to thank God. I know what it is to have gotten that much grace. Read more about me here.

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But I know people who are in serious mess…

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And it’s deeper when it is congenital or hereditary.

While it’s still valid that health is wealth, we cannot jettison the fact that the race to stay healthy is not one that needs to be run at just few paces – even if you have Usain Bolt’s gene in your system.

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To stay healthy is a lifetime core course and one that nobody needs to fail!

But it is so unfortunate how we do things wrong. So tragic and alarming how we are the undoing of ourselves in the bid to stay healthy.

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Now back to the matter!

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Yes, Moringa! Moringa, its magnanimous help and the unheeded side effects on the human body.

I met a woman earlier this year who narrated the ordeal of a man to me.

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The old man had developed a critical health condition that needed to be attended to, and then this woman was contacted.

She just came and began to deliver some lectures about the use and side effects of Moringa since it was what the man suspected.

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The man felt like jumping out of his skin when the woman told him certain amount of Moringa could create holes on the user’s body.

The woman was on point! The man opened up his side where good number of black spots had developed with enough itchy discomfort on the part of the body…

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Wait! Don’t panic… Let us talk about this. And we will do that here, and now!

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The Truth About Moringa

What does it really do?

Let me be fast about this.

Let me call Moringa a know-it-all herb. To be factual, Moringa is a must-have herb for every home because its nutritional benefits are just almost innumerable; there are enough claims to that.

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It has enough Vitamin A which helps improve your sight (your eyes); it raises your immunity; it decongests your body of toxins; it helps in water purification; it boosts your energy level; it helps to aid digestion; it helps to hype up your mood; it keeps your blood pressure normal; it helps proper functioning of your immune system; it’s a good treat for stomach ulcer; it helps in the treatment of stomach lining and more than a pill to cure cancer – I can’t tell it all!

In fact, this guy says the Moringa plant has 30 benefits for skin and hair health.

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The Tree of Life: Moringa Oleifera the Miracle Tree from therealtreeoflife on GodTube.

Also see the images below for more nutritional facts of Moringa Leaves and Seeds

 MoringaSource : millennialherbs.com

moringa nutrientSource: Myheathfood2u.com


How do you feel about this plant now? Like going to start planting and selling? Good.

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But let us talk about something more – it’s side effects!

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So, does Moringa has side effects? If yes, what are the side effects of Moringa?

The woman I talked about earlier said, “Since Moringa has a considerable dose of antibiotics, too much of it is not good for the body. Because, the moment you have too much of antibiotics in your body system, they join in fighting your system after killing all they were administered to kill.”

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She also said, “Moringa is rich in Sulphur and not everybody is okay with it; some are allergic to Sulphur. Too much of Moringa will perforate your body internally. It will create black spots on your body that will be giving you some itchy discomfort.”

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Let us see some more.

According to this research, Moringa is said to be safe when used in an appropriate manner and administered orally. Its fruits, seeds and leaves are also safe when eaten in moderate amounts as foods. However, eating the root and its extracts could be a looming danger to the body. This is no other reason than, these parts of the plant contains enough toxic agents capable of causing paralysis and even worst, death. So, to use Moringa, make sure you follow prescriptions of someone that really know about this plant.

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Here Comes the Bomb: the Special Warnings and Precautions!

Caution for Pregnant women:

It’s LIKELY TO BE DANGEROUS to take the bark, the flowers or the root of Moringa when a woman is pregnant. Because, the chemicals in the mentioned parts of the tree could make the uterus contract, which might cause miscarriage for the pregnant woman.

However, there is no substantial information about the safe usage of other parts of Moringa; but it is advisable to stay out of it during pregnancy. Only use it on your doctor’s prescription.

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Caution for breastfeeding Women:

Since Moringa is often times used to boost breast milk production, some research assume it might do this to a nursing-mother; though there is no concise information to help whether it is safe for the baby. So, isn’t it worth the halt when a woman is breastfeeding? Make sure you use any drugs or herds per doctor’s prescription; avoid self-medication.

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Let us see some more.

Hear this…

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Moringa’s side effects are not widely known but on the occasion that someone did take it all wrong. Its effects come unaided when one starts to take too much of it.

Moringa is not a fix-it-all for your hearth challenges, even if it has all the potency to keep you healthy over the time. Everyone has accustomed time it would take Moringa to adapt to their body system. It is therefore imperative to use this plant per body system to gain its benefits. Rushing it in is dangerous!

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In addition…

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Feeling nauseous following the intake of Moringa is a proof that you have taken too much of it; having runny stomach from the intake of Moringa is another proof that you have taken more than normal dose.

And this… Heartburn:

Taking Moringa with little or no water can readily give you a heartburn. So, take with as much water your stomach can carry. No! I didn’t mean you should take a gallon of water.

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Even this…. Blood Thickening:

Moringa, like every other green plants used as food, thickens the blood. A caution for those on blood-thinning medication.

Note: Don’t eat many of the seeds at a time! Take it little by little. Like no one can burn all the fats in their body in a day, don’t try to use Moringa as a shortcut to having the healthy condition you desire. Failure to adhere to this caution is hundred times dangerous to your health.

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“If you must ignore the look of a town crier, never ignore his message.”

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“A word is enough, they say, for the wise!”

But… I thought you would ask this question?

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How much of Moringa should I take?

The Moringa seed:

It is recommended that you take a seed of Moringa at a time if you are just starting to eat it. After a while, you can increase it to two seeds at a time. But, never let your appetite drive you to take more than four in a day! That is not a typo! Don’t take more than maximum of four (4) seeds in a day. Eh! You are still asking why? Just follow that for now.

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The Moringa Tea or Powder:

It is recommended to start with half of a teaspoon daily for three (3) to five (5) days and increase this to just one teaspoon on the sixth (6th) day. You can take two spoons per day if you are very healthy, two teaspoons daily is okay. And after two weeks, you can take a bit higher than two spoons, but not like 10! Three to four is okay, and even with that you need to pay attention to how your body reacts to it. And the moment you sense any irrational feelings, slow things down. Yes… Down. Like D for Door, O for Orange, W for Water and N for Nose; D-o-w-n!

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It is better you take this with breakfast and not advisable you take it on an empty stomach except prescribed by a medical practitioner.

More so, you can take it on the particular time of the day that you need it most: you can take it to aid digestion either in the morning, afternoon or at night, depending on your body system and feelings. Never take it because you saw Tom and Jerry taking it every now and then in the cartoon.

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Let me also remind you to wash your hand with soap regularly, especially after visiting the toilet. Won’t you say thank you for that? Smiles.

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My Final Advice for You

Be careful who you buy from if you can’t make the tea on your own. Buying from someone who is after your money and not your health will only cost you troubles. I even suggest you learn how to make the tea yourself. Don’t buy Moringa tea from all these “E de kill this, e dey kill that people;” don’t buy from just anyone. Make sure you buy all you take into your mouth from qualified sellers! Should I prostrate on that? Here I go.

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Now the ball is in your court. Should we save lives together or watch people die of ignorance?

Don’t let your neighbour be a victim of this!

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Thank you in anticipation. Mwah.

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Before you start with todays work, is good you commit your work in God hands. Pray for better Ideas that will bring about success at your place of work. come against every power that will hinder your promotion at your place of work. Hence, here is a powerful prayer before work video for you.

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